This blog is supposed to focus on fitness, happiness and beauty products I'm obsessed with. Nothing too terribly deep and fun reading. However, there has been a huge issue lately I have seen far too much of: negativity.
You guys know the basics of what I'm talking about. The complaints begin about work, being out of shape, not having enough money, not being pretty enough, skinny enough, curvy enough, and it goes on. It's one thing to complain about your own insecurities constantly, but it's another thing entirely to post hateful things online about others.
I have seen this new trend of "sarcastic spite" as I'll call it all over the internet and invading into friendships. It's where someone does something or likes something, and they are met with constant sarcasm and put downs.
I went through a severe amount of sarcastic spite when I went vegan. I remember being so disappointed in so many people when I'd constantly be asked "Don't you want a burger?" or "Do you really think one person not eating those things will actually ever make a difference?" It was a kick in the gut to have minimal belief in something that I was doing that was not harming anyone else. All I wanted was to explore this new way of eating for me. However, I was totally not prepared for the spite thrown my way. When I stopped being vegan after 9 months, due to my diet being poorly planned and not getting protein where I should (failure on my part, not the diet itself) I was again met with spite. "Well, that lasted long"or "We knew you'd come back to the dark side".
I think our society is becoming far too comfortable criticizing others for fun. Especially when people are trying to better themselves or be closer to who they are truly wanting to be. An example that hit close to home to me was a recent post I saw online about someone who didn't want to "listen" or "see" people posting about training for a long distance race. Something along the lines of "We don't give a damn about your training schedule, so maybe get a life and stop posting about it" Besides the fact I just ran a marathon in March and posted my training journey, I think this was incredibly rude to runners in general. We aren't allowed to be proud of the accomplishments we work hard for? Well, I guess we should all stop posting on Facebook and other social media anytime we have something to be excited about? Kind of crazy talk, if you ask me. Facebook was created to share your life with others/your friends. We need not be judgy about it,people.
I also see this with comparing types of workouts. Calling me or anyone else a "cardio bunny" because I enjoy running over lifting weights is obnoxious. I do strength training as well but that's not all I do. I tried lifting, it wasn't for me. I don't try to change your workout routine, so commenting on how I work out "too much" or haven't really worked out because I don't lift is too much. We are all on our own individual fitness journey and when someone finds something they like and it keeps them healthy, ENCOURAGE them. Don't try to tell them their workouts are not good enough. Also, if someone tells you about this awesome new workout they tried, listen. Don't be waiting to say how you'd never do that or you'd rather just do something else instead. Talk about how great it is that everyone is taking better care of themselves. Invite each other to workout your way just for fun. Do silly workouts like dance cardio where you laugh at yourself. Don't take yourself or your workout too seriously.
My final piece is judging others. We are all guilty of this, but the social media posting of who is wrong and who is right is too much to handle. Let people live their lives and don't post how much you hate them for whatever. Just read the info, have an opinion but don't blast it all over your pages. The world is negative enough people. Lift each other up, support one another, post positive things, and live your life as happily as you can. Life is so so short.
This quote below completely encompasses what I am going for here. Sorry for the rant you guys. Had to get it off my chest.
